Imagine this: you’re browsing through a sea of potential matches. You start to get a cramp in your thumb, you see the light fading from your eyes, and you suddenly realize that you have no clue what you are doing. Sounds familiar? Men, you can now get online dating help from a professional. Many programs are designed to help men pursue success in their romance.

It can be difficult to navigate online dating when you’re blindfolded. Making meaningful connections is more than just swiping left or right. Good coaches help you to stand out, boost your confidence, and refine your approach.

Here are some of the key strategies these coaches recommend.

Create Your Own Profile

Your first impression is everything. Imagine your profile like your digital handshake. The coaches suggest that you focus on your authenticity, rather than perfectionism. Tell a few stories that show who you are — your passions, quirks and what you love.

Instead of “I like hiking,” say “Last year, I hiked Mount Rainier, and almost got blown away by the wind on the summit!” It creates an interesting picture that will spark curiosity.

Photos Matter More than You Think

You should also tell a tale with your photos. Avoid blurry photos of group selfies or bathroom selfies where it’s impossible to tell who is in the picture. Use high-quality photos that showcase different aspects of your life, such as travel adventures, hobbies or candid moments between friends.

Even a coach may suggest hiring a photographer to take some photos. This may sound extreme, but consider this: would you wear sweatpants for a job interview if it was a mandatory requirement?

Mastering the Art of Conversation

What now? First messages can be the difference between success and failure. Use generic openings such as “Hey!” or “What’s going on?” The coaches recommend a more interesting opening: mentioning something from the profile.

Imagine someone mentioning they love dogs on their biography. You can say “I’m glad to see that you love dogs!” What is the name of your dog? This simple question is a great way to start a conversation.

Balance Humor with Seriousness

Don’t try to force humor. If you are naturally humorous, then let that shine through. Instead of trying to sound funny, be genuine and kind.

A client told us how they used humor to their advantage: They noticed that the person with whom they were dating had photos from different countries, so when he spotted this, he sent her a message saying “Are secretly Carmen Sandiego?” and she loved it.

Dealing with rejection

Remember that rejection happens to everybody! Brad Pitt is probably ghosted from time to time (ok, maybe not him). Here, coaches emphasize the importance of resilience. Don’t let this discourage you or take it personally.

Keep perspective. Every ‘no,’ you get closer to someone saying ‘yes’.

Setting realistic expectations

When browsing through profiles, it’s very easy to fall into fantasy. But keep your expectations realistic! Everyone is imperfect, including you!

It’s important that a coach reminds clients to be patient and give it time. Finding love is not as easy as Hollywood portrays.

We’re going to skip the conclusion today, aren’t you? Here’s a peek at how an online dating expert for men can help turn swipes into date & dates into possible relationships. Enjoy your swipes and may Cupid’s arrow find its target soon!